Roll Over!

Okay. I admit it. I'm a proud Nana showing off the 4th of my grandsons...Hunter William Johnson! My daughter-in-law, Kristin, sent me this video and it made me think about how much we lose when we become adults. Let me explain. You see how Hunter has discovered he can roll over? Once he figured it out, though, he didn't stop short of rolling because ... What if I can't do it again? What if nobody likes me now that I can roll? What if this is all I'll ever be able to do? What if the other babies call me a 'show off'? Nope! Hunter is just going with the flow and tapping into his natural ability to roll over with a little coaxing from his mom.

What about us? What have you and I figured out that we can do if but for just a little determination? What's holding us back from tapping into our own God-given talents and abilities to make a difference in the world around us? How many times have we just needed a little encouragement to enable us to conquer a brand new world? How often have we "poo-pooed" someone's pep talk and stubbornly stayed stuck? Mmmmmm..........

I believe as we grow older we forget just how much we really can do. We stop discovering and get stuck in mediocrity. So, my friends, my word to you today is this: BE CURIOUS, GO WITH THE FLOW, GET YOURSELF A SUPPORT SYSTEM and just like my grandson, Hunter, let your natural abilities rise up and ROLL OVER!

YES!

How To Find Your Purpose

Keep The Glass Full!

In practically any interpersonal or soft skills seminar I usually talk about the importance of having great self-esteem. So, what is it? Well, it's the way you see your whole self, mentally, physically, and emotionally. Sadly, depending on the lens you're using at the time, that view can oftentimes be askew. Check out some of these statistics that suggest people don't accept themselves the way they are, so they're constantly trying to change something:

• According to the Cosmetic Surgery National Data Bank, there were over 10 million surgical and non-surgical cosmetic procedures performed in 2008, with surgical procedures accounting for approximately 17% of the total, resulting in a 160% increase in the number of procedures since the late 1990's. This startling statistic comes from The Plastic Surgery Group.
• 80% of American women are dissatisfied with their appearance (Smolak, 1996).

Why do people suffer from low self esteem? While there are many reasons, some individuals suffer from poor body image and focus on all the negative traits of their physical appearance. Others have emotional issues that have caused their self-esteem to drop or feel themselves unworthy of any praise. Go ahead and take the self-esteem test to see where you stand, just remember whatever reasons your self-esteem may falter, the key to building it up again is to find the root of the problem.

Imagine for a moment a glass filled with water, let's call that you filled with positive self-esteem. Now, visualize a pitcher of water, let's call that the fountain of self-esteem. You came into this world filled with good self-esteem, but life keeps happening to deplete you. That's why you have to keep going back to the fountain--you have to keep your glass full. Remember, the only one who can make you excel is you and no one else. The same goes for self-esteem. The only person who can build up—or consequentially tear down—your self-esteem is you. Although other individuals may aide the process, the end decision is yours.

Many individuals look for help for their low self-esteem in books or seminars. The number of available options on the market is phenomenal, and you are sure to find one on a topic that deals with your specific issues. Check out your local library or book store and explore their "self help" section for a book that you may find helpful. Here are a few of my recommendations:



Negativity plays a tremendous role in depleting your self-esteem. Negative thoughts can pervade your confidence and crumble your self-esteem. If you find yourself surrounded by negative people or in a negative situation, try to best remedy the problem. Often, individuals in a abusive relationship have their self-esteem shattered when a supposed loved one constantly berates them and questions their worth. Similarly, a negative workplace environment can lower your self-esteem with colleagues or bosses finding fault with your work. Maybe you have a friend who is consistently negative with all surrounding him or her. Whatever the source, distancing yourself from the negativity will help you re-fill your glass of self-esteem. Strive to surround yourself with positive people. If you are going through a rough time in your personal life, you may wish to join a support group. Similarly, there are support groups available for individuals with self image issues. These groups will allow you to meet other individuals like yourself and provide a forum for you to sound your hopes and achievements.

However you choose to begin building your self-esteem, do so today! Be thorough and consistent with the process and be aware it may take a while. You should not become impatient or despondent if you find your self esteem slipping. Remember, you are an important and worthy person and should treat yourself as such.

Keep the glass full!

The Gift of Change

How to Get Unstuck

Are you stuck? Do you find yourself doing the same thing over and over again? This quick 6-minute video will help.




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What Do You Believe...Really?

A friend of mine has a saying, "What you believe governs how you behave." Think about it for a moment and let it sink in, because it is soooo true! Watch this!

No Seed...No Harvest!

Have you ever met someone that you knew needed help but they were too smart to know it, so they just dismissed you and/or your advice?

I see it all the time...people attending my seminars because they want to, say, learn how to be a more effective leader. They walk in with the expectation that all it will take is six hours with me, and presto, changeo, bam--all better! That is so not reality!

Growing is a process, and growth occurs through certain strategic moves on the part of the one who plants the seeds. I'm no gardener, but I believe the process goes something like this:

• Get the soil ready.
• Select the seed.
• Plant the seed.
• Water the seed on a continually basis.
• Check and pull weeds periodically.
• Wait patiently for the cycle of growth to run its course
• Enjoy the end result, i.e., a rose bush, window sill herbs, hyacinths, etc.

Oftentimes, people want to skip all of the processes and go from seedtime to harvest. And when I tell them it's not going to happen like that, they dismiss it! I explain that real leaders read and invest in themselves to assist in the growth process. They look at me and say, "Well, I can't do that if my boss doesn't approve it!" WAKE UP! Your life is yours! Your career is yours! Your growth (or lack thereof) is also yours!

Listen, if you want something different then do something different. Quick whining and complaining about how unfair life is and how you're always mistreated, overlooked, abused, misused and whatever! You cannot and you will not get the harvest as long as you're unwilling to plant the seed!

style="font-size:0pt;">Until next blog, Dr. A aka "The Purpose Professor" http://www.lifeonpurposellc.com/ "Life with no purpose is no life at all!"

Choose to Get Over Your Past!

If you're still nursing a wound of failure ... you've got to see this!

Protecting Your Hot Button

Ever wondered how you can effectively deal with those people who like to press your hot button? Here are 4 ways to keep your sanity!

Doggone It! You're Good Enough!

Saturday Night Live is one of my all-time favorite shows. Last year's Sarah Palin spoofs were hiliarious! The thing about SNL is sometimes you can even learn something if you pay close attention.

For example, remember Al Franken's character, Stuart Smalley, looking into a mirror affirming, "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough and doggone it, people like me!" So many people pooh-pooh the idea of affirmations; however, I've learned that what you say to yourself matters more than what others say to you. Why? Because your voice and your opinion carry the greatest weight in your subconscious mind.

Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said, “The most influential person who will talk to you all day is you, so you should be very careful about what you say to you.” Wow! What are you saying to yourself all day? Most of us cannot answer that question. I know I couldn't until I started to pay attention. Imagine my horror to hear myself saying things like, "stupid me!" or "I'm so crazy."

To those of you who're saying, "Dr. A, I'm just playing. I don't mean those things. Girlfriend, you just need to lighten up!", did you know that Proverbs 26:18-19 says, "Just as damaging as a madman shooting a deadly weapon is someone who lies to a friend and then says, 'Iwas only joking."' Think about this: if a lie to a friend is a deadly weapon, what about the lies you speak to yourself in the form of negative self-talk? So here's a three step process I learned from one of my mentors, Jack Canfield, that I want to share with you to help you monitor your negative self-talk:

1. Identify your negative self-talk
2. Cancel that negative self-talk
3. Replace the negative self-talk with positive self-talk (that's where affirmations come into play)

I teach this in some of my seminars when we talk about self-confidence and self-esteem. You see, it's important what we say about ourselves and think about ourselves. Yet, most of us are going around in a negative self-created cloud unable to realize our goals and dreams because we are in our own way.

To anchor this behavior, I've put together a quick little video from one of my seminars to show you how to do this. Have fun with this. (It's not the best video quality. It was jerky, but you can still get the essence of it).

And remember ... You're good enough. You're smart enough, and doggone it, people like ya!

"Life with no purpose is no life at all!"
Dr. A
http://www.lifeonpurposellc.com/