The Gift of Change

How to Get Unstuck

Are you stuck? Do you find yourself doing the same thing over and over again? This quick 6-minute video will help.




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What Do You Believe...Really?

A friend of mine has a saying, "What you believe governs how you behave." Think about it for a moment and let it sink in, because it is soooo true! Watch this!

No Seed...No Harvest!

Have you ever met someone that you knew needed help but they were too smart to know it, so they just dismissed you and/or your advice?

I see it all the time...people attending my seminars because they want to, say, learn how to be a more effective leader. They walk in with the expectation that all it will take is six hours with me, and presto, changeo, bam--all better! That is so not reality!

Growing is a process, and growth occurs through certain strategic moves on the part of the one who plants the seeds. I'm no gardener, but I believe the process goes something like this:

• Get the soil ready.
• Select the seed.
• Plant the seed.
• Water the seed on a continually basis.
• Check and pull weeds periodically.
• Wait patiently for the cycle of growth to run its course
• Enjoy the end result, i.e., a rose bush, window sill herbs, hyacinths, etc.

Oftentimes, people want to skip all of the processes and go from seedtime to harvest. And when I tell them it's not going to happen like that, they dismiss it! I explain that real leaders read and invest in themselves to assist in the growth process. They look at me and say, "Well, I can't do that if my boss doesn't approve it!" WAKE UP! Your life is yours! Your career is yours! Your growth (or lack thereof) is also yours!

Listen, if you want something different then do something different. Quick whining and complaining about how unfair life is and how you're always mistreated, overlooked, abused, misused and whatever! You cannot and you will not get the harvest as long as you're unwilling to plant the seed!

style="font-size:0pt;">Until next blog, Dr. A aka "The Purpose Professor" http://www.lifeonpurposellc.com/ "Life with no purpose is no life at all!"

Choose to Get Over Your Past!

If you're still nursing a wound of failure ... you've got to see this!

Protecting Your Hot Button

Ever wondered how you can effectively deal with those people who like to press your hot button? Here are 4 ways to keep your sanity!

Doggone It! You're Good Enough!

Saturday Night Live is one of my all-time favorite shows. Last year's Sarah Palin spoofs were hiliarious! The thing about SNL is sometimes you can even learn something if you pay close attention.

For example, remember Al Franken's character, Stuart Smalley, looking into a mirror affirming, "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough and doggone it, people like me!" So many people pooh-pooh the idea of affirmations; however, I've learned that what you say to yourself matters more than what others say to you. Why? Because your voice and your opinion carry the greatest weight in your subconscious mind.

Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said, “The most influential person who will talk to you all day is you, so you should be very careful about what you say to you.” Wow! What are you saying to yourself all day? Most of us cannot answer that question. I know I couldn't until I started to pay attention. Imagine my horror to hear myself saying things like, "stupid me!" or "I'm so crazy."

To those of you who're saying, "Dr. A, I'm just playing. I don't mean those things. Girlfriend, you just need to lighten up!", did you know that Proverbs 26:18-19 says, "Just as damaging as a madman shooting a deadly weapon is someone who lies to a friend and then says, 'Iwas only joking."' Think about this: if a lie to a friend is a deadly weapon, what about the lies you speak to yourself in the form of negative self-talk? So here's a three step process I learned from one of my mentors, Jack Canfield, that I want to share with you to help you monitor your negative self-talk:

1. Identify your negative self-talk
2. Cancel that negative self-talk
3. Replace the negative self-talk with positive self-talk (that's where affirmations come into play)

I teach this in some of my seminars when we talk about self-confidence and self-esteem. You see, it's important what we say about ourselves and think about ourselves. Yet, most of us are going around in a negative self-created cloud unable to realize our goals and dreams because we are in our own way.

To anchor this behavior, I've put together a quick little video from one of my seminars to show you how to do this. Have fun with this. (It's not the best video quality. It was jerky, but you can still get the essence of it).

And remember ... You're good enough. You're smart enough, and doggone it, people like ya!

"Life with no purpose is no life at all!"
Dr. A
http://www.lifeonpurposellc.com/